Saturday, February 22, 2014

Happy Birthday | Letter To My Twenty-Six Year Old Self


Girl, you are old! But fortunately, the none the wiser piece doesn’t apply. I’ve been putting off this letter for sometime, but after a recent breakthrough I felt this was as good a time as any.

You always have these goals of being happy and having a less negative outlook on things. Conveniently, you always chose to overlook the piece about finding happiness within yourself. I can’t tell you that you’ve found that ability or that I’ve discovered some magical trick to help you do so. But, if the past twenty-five years have taught you anything, it should be what happens when you allow your happiness to live and die at the hands of someone else.

I don’t think this is the year for reflection on where you’ve been and where you’re going. Don’t make any plans on how to get from point A to point B. Just live! You have your thirties and beyond to make plans and worry. Twenty-six is your sabbatical year.

If you hear it from no one else, know that I’m proud of you. You’ve accomplished more than I ever imagined that you would. You’ve far exceeded the standard that you initially set for yourself. I’m not saying this is the time to slack off but cruise control should be fine for the next year.

Continue to be strong, determined, and to demand happiness for yourself. Love without the fear of heartbreak. Remember that life is what happens to us while we are making other plans. So, be fearless and just live.

Yourself at age twenty-five

Thursday, February 20, 2014

101 Things To Do in 1001 Days

 I am keeping a list of 101 things I'd like to accomplish in the next 1001 days. I’ve attempted and failed this challenge several times in the past. I’m restarting this 1001 days (2.75 years) journey in attempts to achieve my goals, take chances and experience life in way I haven’t before. Keep up with my progress below!

Status: 10 complete, 91 to go! 
End Date: October 4, 2016 
(Last Updated: 7/10/14)

  1. Go to Canada
  2. Visit three city/states in the U.S. for the first time Bentonville, February 2014
  3. Take 10 flights Bentonville, February 2014; Atlanta, February 2014; New York City, February 2014; Los Angeles, April 2014; San Diego, May 2014; Houston, May 2014; Jacksonville, May 2014
  4. Buy a nice three piece matching luggage set
  5. Be in Vegas at the end of the 1001 days
  6. Visit Nantucket, MA
  7. Write my name in the sand  La Jolla Cove in San Diego, May 2014
  8. Visit the museum at Ellis Island
  9. Walk the Brooklyn Bridge
  10. Ride the ferry in NYC
  11. Ride bikes in Central Park
  12. Go to Coney Island
  13. Have a coney in Coney Island.
  14. Eat at a famous New York pizza place
  15. See something on Broadway All The Way, February 16, 2014
  16. Attend a blogger conference
  17. Buy the domain name for my blog
  18. Establish blog presence
  19. Hire a designer for my blog Danielle Burkleo, February 2014
  20. Purchase a camera for my blog ventures and traveling
  21. Write a short story
  22. Get a Brazilian Skin Spa SOHO, March 2014
  23. Have tea at The Plaza
  24. Clean out my "intimates" drawer
  25. Purchase two sets of pretty pajamas/lounge wear
  26. Invest in a handbag
  27. Get my driver's license
  28. Put $10 in savings for each goal accomplished
  29. Get my teeth whitened
  30. Take a bubble bath
  31. Buy a clarisonic
  32. Finish all hair products before buying new ones
  33. See the sunrise from outdoors
  34. Do something crafty
  35. Go people watching
  36. Have a conversation with a stranger
  37. Play laser tag
  38. Updated: Complete an online/social challenge
  39. Celebrate St. Patricks day besides wearing green.
  40. Fly a kite
  41. Updated: Do something adventurous
  42. Go ice skating
  43. Read in the park
  44. See a movie outdoors
  45. Go to an official sporting event
  46. Have a picnic
  47. Play tennis
  48. Buy dining room set (March 2014) and accompanying mirror for dinette vision
  49. Buy a wreath for my front door
  50. Have company over twice for dinner, drinks or games (0/2)
  51. Have a Christmas tree in my apartment
  52. Buy something for my home from Etsy
  53. Hang three photos of family in my apartment (0/3)
  54. Purchase curtains for my living room (March 2014)
  55. Adopt or get a dog; unless I have a kid
  56. Buy flowers
  57. Subscribe to an interior design magazine
  58. Go to church at least once a month for a year (2/12, Jan., Mar.)
  59. Purchase something that gives proceeds back to charity in some way.
  60. Support only small businesses for 2 weeks
  61. Volunteer with children (JANY at the office, Apr 2014;Full day teaching with JANY, June 2014)
  62. Donate my old clothes/shoes/purses
  63. Leave an inspirational note inside a book for someone to find
  64. Purchase gifts for everyone in my immediate family for Christmas
  65. Help Jonathan move out
  66. Send 20 handwritten notes (1/20)
  67. Make an address book with contact information for friends and family
  68. Visit a friend in another state
  69. Reconnect with an old friend
  70. Have all Christmas gifts purchased before December
  71. Send out New Years cards one year.
  72. Spend a day with 4 friends doing whatever they want.
  73. Get to work on time for a week straight, twice (0/14)
  74. Earn two pay increases/promotions
  75. LOVE my job
  76. Create a profitable side hustle
  77. Order personal business cards and stationary on Etsy
  78. Have an at home dinner date
  79. Kiss in the rain
  80. Plan an amazing date
  81. Have first long-term relationship (+2 years)
  82. Be happy in love
  83. No fast food for a month
  84. Participate in Meatless Mondays for two months
  85. No fried foods for a month
  86. Drink only water for one month
  87. Do hot yoga
  88. Make 10 recipes from Pinterest
  89. Have lobster in Maine
  90. Visit a restaurant featured on Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives
  91. Try a different kind of sushi roll, instead of shrimp tempura
  92. Try a new drink at Starbucks (Vanilla Machiatto)
  93. Have wine and cheese at a wine bar or go wine tasting
  94. See a comedy show
  95. Watch a movie for each letter of the alphabet (0/26)
  96. Attend a Jazz festival
  97. See four independent films in a theater at four different theaters Philemona at Landmark Sunshine Theater
  98. Watch a movie that was released in 1988 (birth year) Beaches
  99. Read thirty books (0/30)
  100. Take a picture every month and make a calendar with the photos; caption the photos
  101. Take photo booth photo

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Just In Time For Valentine's Day

I was browsing the blogosphere and came across this post at The Word Of A Nerd on how the love for her husband grew over time. Yes, an argument to the theory of--the hopeless romantic’s dream--love at first sight.

This isn’t the first time I’d thought of my feelings on this subject. As I’m still on my single and dating journey, this has definitely been one of the questions I’ve asked myself - “how do you know when you’ve met ‘the one.’” To be completely honest, I’m still not sure that I know.

I’ve met guys that I’ve connected with immediately due to us sharing a passion for a given subject. There’s even been guys that I’ve been instantly attracted to and maybe experienced a more than normal surge of that “love drug.”

But, as I grow older, I understand more that love is a mature emotion and maturity represents growth, development. I no longer believe that the surface sensibility to gauge love rests completely in sight. I do think it’s something that takes time to develop. Is this to say that I don’t want the eye-gazing, lapse in breath, or all of the other classically defined signs of “love?”

No. What is means is that as I've matured, the meaning of what love is has matured for me as well. Just as I've had to evolve into who I'm becoming, so does love.